There are certain words in every language that do not only mean one thing instead they are powerful tools to communicate ideas that might be very difficult to get across if otherwise. Nice is one of them. It has no straightforward meaning and it’s been used a lot on a daily basis by many people who use the English language all around the world.
Let us begin by entertaining the uses of nice in people. We often hear or say :
“she’s really nice”
“you are being nice”
What does it really mean? It certainly does not mean “good” because we had that word at our disposal and did not use it. It certainly does not mean “bad” or portrays any negativity because nice is mostly if not always is regarded as a positive term. In these moments Dictionaries are very useful. Here’s the definition from Google :
- 1.giving pleasure or satisfaction; pleasant or attractive.”we had a very nice time”
This is a very interesting starting point. Taking this into consideration, when we say somebody is nice we do not mean she was good. great or projected certain quality instead, we are diverting the attention to another state of being, emotion or feeling. Interestingly enough “divert” is one of the synonyms of it and comes earlier than “good” or “great” in terms of belonging to the same family. (source : Google)
There are kind people & there are honest people living on earth. There are nice people as well but they are not necessarily kind or honest. The aim of this blog post is not to use the word “fake” or “dishonest” because that would totally mean something else. Why would somebody be nice instead of kind or honest?
To follow the train of thoughts in my earlier blog about totality in our behavior & character throughout the aspects of our lives, We can conclude that when somebody is being nice or is nice in general to others, they are nice to themselves as well by means of which, if they do not communicate their true opinion about a certain situation or topic for the sake of being “agreeable” or “satisfiable” then, they are not aware of certain patterns of thinking or behaviors that they live by because that would be “rough” & “unpleasant”.
Is it surprising that the so called nice people are the ones who tend to complain more & have a more negative attitude towards people & matters when we get to know them closely?